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Writer's pictureAbel Nelson Nang

The True Measure of Friendship: Lessons Learned from Rock Bottom.

In the grand theatre of life, the spotlight often shines brightest on those standing at the summit of success. It illuminates their achievements, their charisma, and their seemingly endless circle of admirers. I once stood in that light, basking in the warmth of recognition and camaraderie. But as fate would have it, life isn't a static stage; its scenes shift, and sometimes, the spotlight fades, leaving you in the shadowy depths of rock bottom.

 

Reflecting on my journey, I'm reminded of a poignant truth encapsulated in the words, "The way they treat you when you have nothing, tells everything." It's a truth etched into my heart through the trials and tribulations of my own experiences.

 

During my ascent to the peak of my career, it felt as though the world was at my feet. Opportunities abounded, and with them, a throng of companions eager to share in the successes. They were acquaintances, colleagues, and even distant admirers who clamoured for a moment of my time. In their eyes, I was a beacon of achievement, and they sought to bask in the glow of my accomplishments.



Yet, life is a capricious master, and with one twist of fate, the landscape shifted beneath my feet. The dizzying heights of success gave way to the cold, unforgiving embrace of rock bottom. Suddenly, the once bustling throng of companions dwindled, evaporating like morning mist in the harsh light of adversity.

 

In my hour of need, I reached out, seeking solace and support from those I considered friends. But as I extended my hand, I was met not with warmth, but with cold indifference. The phone calls and texts went unanswered, the invitations remained unaccepted, and the once eager faces turned away.

 

It was a sobering realization, one that cut deep into the fabric of my being. In the depths of despair, when I had nothing tangible to offer, the true measure of friendship revealed itself. Amidst the cacophony of abandonment, there were but a few souls who remained steadfast by my side. They were the ones who didn't just stand by me in my moments of glory, but who walked beside me through the darkest valleys of despair.

 

Their unwavering support became my lifeline, a beacon of hope in the tumultuous sea of uncertainty. They didn't offer grand gestures or extravagant displays of affection; instead, they lent me their ears, their shoulders, their unwavering presence, and whatever they could help to ensure I’d survive. In them, I found solace, strength, and the courage to persevere.



Their actions spoke volumes, echoing the sentiment that true friendship isn't measured by the heights of success, but by the depths of adversity. It's easy to befriend someone when they're riding high on the crest of achievement, but it's in the moments of hardship that true character is revealed.

 

As I navigate the arduous journey of rebuilding my life from the rubble of rock bottom, I carry with me the invaluable lesson learned from those who stood by my side. Their loyalty and unwavering support are not to be taken for granted but cherished as rare and precious treasures.

 

So, to those few who remained when others turned away, I offer my deepest gratitude and prayers. You are the truest of friends, the family I choose, and your presence in my life is a constant reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is light to be found. Your steadfastness gives me the strength to rise from the ashes, to rebuild, and to emerge even stronger than before.

 

In the end, it's not the heights of success that define us, but the depth of our connections and the resilience of our spirit. And as I embrace the journey ahead, I do so with humility, gratitude, and the unwavering knowledge that hitting rock bottom now only means I will rise again, even better than before. - A

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